Today marks the 40th anniversary of the Roe vs. Wade decision... a day that forever changed American culture. My heart is heavy today as I think of all of the live's lost... of those children.
As I think of these children, I cannot help but think of my own Silas... half the world away from me in Taiwan. In a nation where the abortion rates outnumber the live birth rates, I am so grateful for Silas' birth mom and the decision she made to give him life.
Taiwan is a nation approximately the size of Maryland and Delaware combined. It is estimated that Taiwan has between 300,000 and 500,000 abortions each year. In comparison, there were only 166,000 live births in Taiwan in 2010.
The statistics break my heart, but also bless me in that our son has an amazing momma who chose to give him life!
Tuesday, January 22, 2013
Wednesday, January 16, 2013
What is Gotcha Day?
Today I would like to post a link to my work blog to explain something known as Gotcha Day in the adoption community. Looking forward to celebrating this with my little Silas.
http://icmadoptionnetwork.wordpress.com/2013/01/16/gotcha-day/
Also, please continue to pray for Elijah and the Davis family. http://theelijaheffect.com/
http://icmadoptionnetwork.wordpress.com/2013/01/16/gotcha-day/
Also, please continue to pray for Elijah and the Davis family. http://theelijaheffect.com/
Tuesday, January 15, 2013
Prayers Needed
So many people have been praying for our little Silas over the last several months, and we are so appreciative of that. His heart surgery has gone well, and he should be able to develop some healthy eating habits and start growing strong! I know so many of you continue to pray for him as we earnestly await the day we can travel to Taiwan and bring him home.
But today, I am going to ask you not to pray for my little boy... because there is another little boy that needs your prayers so much more than my little boy. His name is Elijah, and Steve and I attended Bible College with his parents, Chris and Becky. I can't even begin to express or adequately describe his situation... so here is the link to Becky's blog: http://theelijaheffect.com/
Please take time today to pray for little Elijah and his beautiful family. We serve a very mighty God!
But he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness."
--2 Corinthians 12:9
But today, I am going to ask you not to pray for my little boy... because there is another little boy that needs your prayers so much more than my little boy. His name is Elijah, and Steve and I attended Bible College with his parents, Chris and Becky. I can't even begin to express or adequately describe his situation... so here is the link to Becky's blog: http://theelijaheffect.com/
Please take time today to pray for little Elijah and his beautiful family. We serve a very mighty God!
But he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness."
--2 Corinthians 12:9
Friday, January 4, 2013
It's about time Maria
I know it has been forever since I have blogged. During the holidays things just get away from me. But it's a new year, and new opportunities everyday!
Let me begin with the best news that Steve and I have received a referral of a little boy that we are going to be naming Silas! He is the most adorable little guy ever. I am choosing not to share any pictures of him on here at this time. Since he is not yet officially ours I would like to protect his privacy... but believe me, he's cute! He is only a couple of months old, and we have already sent him a package of items, including his first University of Kentucky baby beanie.
Since we got the phone call that we had a little boy, things have been a whirlwind! Along with the holidays, we have been working on paperwork. We received all of our paperwork from Taiwan on the 20th of December, and were leaving for Seattle on the 22nd. So we couldn't do anything until we got home. So on New Years Eve, I made the long and very snowy trip up to Chicago by myself. It was a long day. I walked about 3-4 miles in Chicago 30 degree weather. First I went to the Secretary of State to have everything apostilled (a notary of a notary). One of the documents was not done correctly so I had to walk to the nearest notary to have it renotarized. Then I walked back to the Secretary of State, and had everything apostilled. Then I walked to the Taiwanese Economic and Cultural Offices (TECO)... which is on the 57th floor. I hate heights... scariest elevator ride EVER! But they needed copies of all of the documents for their file. So I went downstairs to Kinkos, which was of course closed because it was New Years Eve. So then I walked quite a ways to the nearest Fedex... which was open! Then walked back to TECO, and handed in all of my paperwork. Then ran to my car so that I would make it back in under 3 hours and not have to pay extra parking fees. Then drove three hours home and went to our youth group all-nighter. Fun day (note the sarcasm).
So now we are waiting for the documents to be mailed to us from TECO, then we will turn around and mail them to the orphanage in Taiwan. Once they receive them they will be able to file for a court date for us. We hope for a court date in February and that will be our first trip.
Anyway, wanted to give you all an update! I hope you have a terrific weekend!
Let me begin with the best news that Steve and I have received a referral of a little boy that we are going to be naming Silas! He is the most adorable little guy ever. I am choosing not to share any pictures of him on here at this time. Since he is not yet officially ours I would like to protect his privacy... but believe me, he's cute! He is only a couple of months old, and we have already sent him a package of items, including his first University of Kentucky baby beanie.
Since we got the phone call that we had a little boy, things have been a whirlwind! Along with the holidays, we have been working on paperwork. We received all of our paperwork from Taiwan on the 20th of December, and were leaving for Seattle on the 22nd. So we couldn't do anything until we got home. So on New Years Eve, I made the long and very snowy trip up to Chicago by myself. It was a long day. I walked about 3-4 miles in Chicago 30 degree weather. First I went to the Secretary of State to have everything apostilled (a notary of a notary). One of the documents was not done correctly so I had to walk to the nearest notary to have it renotarized. Then I walked back to the Secretary of State, and had everything apostilled. Then I walked to the Taiwanese Economic and Cultural Offices (TECO)... which is on the 57th floor. I hate heights... scariest elevator ride EVER! But they needed copies of all of the documents for their file. So I went downstairs to Kinkos, which was of course closed because it was New Years Eve. So then I walked quite a ways to the nearest Fedex... which was open! Then walked back to TECO, and handed in all of my paperwork. Then ran to my car so that I would make it back in under 3 hours and not have to pay extra parking fees. Then drove three hours home and went to our youth group all-nighter. Fun day (note the sarcasm).
So now we are waiting for the documents to be mailed to us from TECO, then we will turn around and mail them to the orphanage in Taiwan. Once they receive them they will be able to file for a court date for us. We hope for a court date in February and that will be our first trip.
Anyway, wanted to give you all an update! I hope you have a terrific weekend!
Monday, November 19, 2012
Orphan Sunday
Adoption is Powerful!! I had the great privilege yesterday of tag-team preaching with one of our pastor's at Meadowbrook Community Church for Orphan Sunday. It was such a great experience! If you are interested in listening in, here is a link to the sermon: http://www.meadow.org/sermons/sunday-services/
Thursday, November 15, 2012
10 Things Not to Say to Adoptive Parents
I know it's hard to read... but interesting article!!
Author Tracy Hahn-Burkett has a five-year-old daughter adopted from Koreaand an eight-year-old biological son. Whether well-intentioned, curious or inappropriate, Hahn-Burkett has had many a question lobbied in her direction regarding her daughter and their family make-up. Hahn-Burkett offers you, the curious, some advice before you speak. Along with ten questions one should not ask an adoptive parent, she gives her blunt responses.
1. "Is it difficult to love a child who isn't your own?" My children are my own - both of them. Yes, I know what you mean. And I repeat: Both of my children are "my own."
2. "I could never love someone who doesn't share my biology." I'm sorry your heart is so limited. And presumably your spouse doesn't share your biology, so I'm sorry for him or her, too.
3. "She/He's so lucky." If there are adoptive parents who haven't heard this one, I don't know them. Yes, my adopted child is lucky, just like her brother who was born to me - just like any kid blessed with a good family. Moreover, my husband and I are lucky to have her as a daughter. My daughter is not lucky, however, by virtue of having been adopted or because she's been adopted by an American family. Her life story will always be one that begins with wrenching loss of family, country, language, culture, and all things related to the place and people from whence she came. She will have to figure out how to incorporate all of this into her identity at some point, no matter how much we love her.
4. "That's great; it's so much easier than having the child yourself." Clearly, you have never adopted a child. What, exactly, is easy about it? Is it the hundreds of questions prospective adoptive parents have to answer along the path to adoption, questions that go to the heart of what kind of people they are and dissect every aspect of their lives? Is it committing to a lifetime of knowing that at anytime from toddlerhood through adulthood, your child may come to you with wrenching questions about his or her origins and your answers may be unsatisfactory? Is it knowing that the very fact that your child is yours means that somewhere a woman will probably grieve every day of her life for the child she could not raise? Is it missing the early months, sometimes years, of your child's life? Is it telling your child when he or she asks to see baby pictures, "Sorry, I don't have any"? I could go on, but you get the point.
5. "She's just like a little China doll!" Yes, thank you, I think she's cute, too. But she is not Chinese and she's a human being, so please don't characterize her as an inanimate stereotype. And if you're going to gush and coo over her, please consider that blond-haired, blue-eyed boy standing right next to her. He's my kid, too. He's pretty cute, too. And he can hear you.
6. "Her 'real' mother was probably a prostitute." I'm her "real" mother, and so far as I can recall, I have never been a prostitute.
7. "What kind of a person would give up such a beautiful, sweet child?" This comment is often accompanied by a clucking of the tongue. In general, the kind of person whose options are limited in ways you have never even had to imagine. Birthmothers are not bad, immoral people. Very few, if any, birthmothers who relinquish their children do so lightly. For most, it is a searing, heartbreaking decision that will haunt them forever. Also, please understand that when you say things about my child's birthmother, you are commenting about the woman who gave my daughter life and whose genes remain an inseparable part of her - forever.
8. "People who adopt children from other countries just want an 'exotic' child." Alternatives: "People who adopt children from other countries just don't want black babies" or "People who adopt children from other countries are shirking their responsibility to adopt at home." Very few parents who choose international adoption do so because they don't like "dark" kids or because they want an "exotic" child. The systems of international and domestic adoption differ in fundamental ways, and most parents who choose to adopt educate themselves thoroughly and then pick the program that is best for them.
9. Anything in Chinese - addressed to the Asian adopted child This happened to me when my daughter was a year old. A woman in an elevator said something to my daughter in Chinese, and by the time I figured out what had just taken place, the woman was gone (thereby robbing me of my opportunity to deliver any sort of snarky reply). My daughter is American, has lived in this country since infancy, and the language she understands is English. Why would you assume anything else?
10. "How much did she cost?" Another one we've all heard, generally more than once. But my child is not a melon; I did not pick her up at the store. She cost me nothing. I did, however, spend quite a bit on adoption fees to support the process and travel costs, just as I spent quite a bit on medical care, etc., in conjunction with the conception and birth of my biological son. If you truly want to learn more about the financial aspect of either process, I will be happy to discuss that with you. If you're only interested in knowing in order to pass judgment, it's none of your business.
- By Tracy Hahn-Burkett
Author Tracy Hahn-Burkett has a five-year-old daughter adopted from Koreaand an eight-year-old biological son. Whether well-intentioned, curious or inappropriate, Hahn-Burkett has had many a question lobbied in her direction regarding her daughter and their family make-up. Hahn-Burkett offers you, the curious, some advice before you speak. Along with ten questions one should not ask an adoptive parent, she gives her blunt responses.
1. "Is it difficult to love a child who isn't your own?" My children are my own - both of them. Yes, I know what you mean. And I repeat: Both of my children are "my own."
2. "I could never love someone who doesn't share my biology." I'm sorry your heart is so limited. And presumably your spouse doesn't share your biology, so I'm sorry for him or her, too.
3. "She/He's so lucky." If there are adoptive parents who haven't heard this one, I don't know them. Yes, my adopted child is lucky, just like her brother who was born to me - just like any kid blessed with a good family. Moreover, my husband and I are lucky to have her as a daughter. My daughter is not lucky, however, by virtue of having been adopted or because she's been adopted by an American family. Her life story will always be one that begins with wrenching loss of family, country, language, culture, and all things related to the place and people from whence she came. She will have to figure out how to incorporate all of this into her identity at some point, no matter how much we love her.
4. "That's great; it's so much easier than having the child yourself." Clearly, you have never adopted a child. What, exactly, is easy about it? Is it the hundreds of questions prospective adoptive parents have to answer along the path to adoption, questions that go to the heart of what kind of people they are and dissect every aspect of their lives? Is it committing to a lifetime of knowing that at anytime from toddlerhood through adulthood, your child may come to you with wrenching questions about his or her origins and your answers may be unsatisfactory? Is it knowing that the very fact that your child is yours means that somewhere a woman will probably grieve every day of her life for the child she could not raise? Is it missing the early months, sometimes years, of your child's life? Is it telling your child when he or she asks to see baby pictures, "Sorry, I don't have any"? I could go on, but you get the point.
5. "She's just like a little China doll!" Yes, thank you, I think she's cute, too. But she is not Chinese and she's a human being, so please don't characterize her as an inanimate stereotype. And if you're going to gush and coo over her, please consider that blond-haired, blue-eyed boy standing right next to her. He's my kid, too. He's pretty cute, too. And he can hear you.
6. "Her 'real' mother was probably a prostitute." I'm her "real" mother, and so far as I can recall, I have never been a prostitute.
7. "What kind of a person would give up such a beautiful, sweet child?" This comment is often accompanied by a clucking of the tongue. In general, the kind of person whose options are limited in ways you have never even had to imagine. Birthmothers are not bad, immoral people. Very few, if any, birthmothers who relinquish their children do so lightly. For most, it is a searing, heartbreaking decision that will haunt them forever. Also, please understand that when you say things about my child's birthmother, you are commenting about the woman who gave my daughter life and whose genes remain an inseparable part of her - forever.
8. "People who adopt children from other countries just want an 'exotic' child." Alternatives: "People who adopt children from other countries just don't want black babies" or "People who adopt children from other countries are shirking their responsibility to adopt at home." Very few parents who choose international adoption do so because they don't like "dark" kids or because they want an "exotic" child. The systems of international and domestic adoption differ in fundamental ways, and most parents who choose to adopt educate themselves thoroughly and then pick the program that is best for them.
9. Anything in Chinese - addressed to the Asian adopted child This happened to me when my daughter was a year old. A woman in an elevator said something to my daughter in Chinese, and by the time I figured out what had just taken place, the woman was gone (thereby robbing me of my opportunity to deliver any sort of snarky reply). My daughter is American, has lived in this country since infancy, and the language she understands is English. Why would you assume anything else?
10. "How much did she cost?" Another one we've all heard, generally more than once. But my child is not a melon; I did not pick her up at the store. She cost me nothing. I did, however, spend quite a bit on adoption fees to support the process and travel costs, just as I spent quite a bit on medical care, etc., in conjunction with the conception and birth of my biological son. If you truly want to learn more about the financial aspect of either process, I will be happy to discuss that with you. If you're only interested in knowing in order to pass judgment, it's none of your business.
- By Tracy Hahn-Burkett
Monday, November 12, 2012
Adoption Changing The World
Having been adopted, I really have a strong sense- a necessity almost- for stability, a foundation where my family is concerned. [Success] would be meaningless without anyone to share it with.” –Faith Hill
November is National Adoption Awareness Month. Every year, thousands of children are adopted in the United States, but there are still so many more millions of children around our world without a family. It would probably surprise you to realize how many people were adopted.
Here are some people that I’m sure you are familiar with who were adopted. They were given opportunity by their adoptive parents, and have literally changed the world!
- Faith Hill
- Daunte Culpepper
- Bill Clinton
- Dave Thomas
- Jesse Jackson
- Maya Angelou
- Michael Bay
- Richard Burton
- Agustus Ceasar
- Kristin Chenoweth
- Eric Clapton
- Nat King Cole
- Ten Danson
- Gerald Ford
- Jamie Foxx
- Newt Gingrich
- Leo Tolstoy
- Eleanor Roosevelt
- Nicole Richie
- Nancy Reagan
- Edgar Allen Poe
- Jim Palmer
- Michael Oher
- Alonzo Mourning
- Mother Teresa
- Moses
- Marilyn Monroe
- Tom Monaghan
- Sarah McLachlan
- Tim McGraw
- Nelson Mandela
- Malcolm X
- Ray Liotta
- John Lennon
- Steve Jobs
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